A parent was talking with his two sons, the teenager was experiencing a minor problem with his girlfriend. The father ended the talk by saying, “Where there’s a will, there’s a way!” The younger boy said (playfully, sort of under his breath), “Where there’s a will, I want to be in it!” The teenager and parent smiled and said, “You’re always thinking about money, Dude, this is serious!”
Ha! Everything is serious to teenagers, the great thing about being alive and weathering any storm, is existing in the “barrel of fun” of which we speak. Add to that, a pre-condition of “bonding” and the magic of parent/child joyful noise continues to display itself. Let’s talk about the magic of “bonding.”
My dictionary of reference defines “Bonding” as “The forming of close, specialized human relationships, such as those that link parent and child, husband and wife, or friend and friend.”
I think that is an excellent definition, it relates irreverently to parenting. The reason I say that is because successful parenting is not a me, me, me deal. To be a successful parent and really get the utmost of everything your parenting has to offer, you need to share your joy with at least one other caring person. The optimum is your spouse. Sharing means you’ve got to be on the same page; in other words, your parenting significant-other and you should cuddle with this work, and personalize the revealed-methods. You’ll find the result will be success on a grand scale.
Before I continue, please allow me to caution you about your relationship with your partner: when you and your chosen significant-other cuddle with this work, do it in segments. Don’t walk away until you agree with the way your parent/child relationship will be handled. When you agree, the relationship is of such that each of you will invest your parenting efforts toward the goal of molding your Little One, then the first step is behind you.
The next step is of great importance: the male should be the lead; however, there should be no superior/inferior stance. Your child must be aware of the roles of the two, not in the words used, but in the actions you reveal. Even if the male is a stay-at-home dad, the roles should not change, it’s just that an arrangement of that sort can cause unusual adjustments: primarily from the financial side of the ledger.
Needless to say, here in our “Bridge to Success,” we are referring to the very special relationship between you and your little “Bundle of Joy,” a relationship that not only will last a lifetime, but will be so special a matter of sharing and caring, that there is no doubt that one would gladly give his life to save the other.
When it comes to the parent/child bonding, it becomes a matter of creating a mindset, building a structure, molding a foundation that will cause your Little One to relate to, and make the “barrel of fun” of which we speak, become a reality. The parent(s) is the fulcrum that starts the ball rolling.
Keep in mind, you are your Little One’s world, you are his superman. The only thing you can do wrong is to do nothing (by default)! Whatever the case, it begins with having fun with him or her.
Read to him, start with Nursery Rhymes (fit a smile to your face as you read), play age related games, the best game-toy is a ball. The reason I say that is because a ball helps a child energize his physical capabilities better than any other, plus he can do it alone and/or with others, especially you, his hero. In addition, play lots of different kinds of music (including classical: sometimes maybe just as background music). Collect as many material things you can think of in order to build contents of his “barrel of fun”.
Having said that, let me just say “bonding” involves two major areas of relationship: caring and sharing, and being totally honest with each other. Keep in mind, being honest means if something doesn’t fit; that is, if one of you feels uneasy about a theme or idea, let it all hang out (express your incongruence). With that basic criteria in place, everything else will become a reality.
‘Nuff said about “bonding.” This guide and/or program is designed to follow in the footsteps of our real Founding Fathers of the American Revolution. The goal is to set a foundation of thought that will headline success on a grand scale. In each case I will recommend a segment to which to advance. My idea may fit you to a “T”; on the other hand, maybe not. For you to gain utmost success of this effort, the secret is to personalize the effort to fit you and your child.
Having said that, I suggest the next step in this effort is to access “Corporal punishment.”
Whatever you do, remember our motto: “Make it happen and make it fun!”