First of all, I want to thank you for choosing to access this site. Obviously, you chose to gravitate to it because you thought it might be a source of achievement. You are correct, it is. However, this work was not developed for the casual observer: the objective here is to mold lives: yours and your child(ren). The key phrase is parent involvement in early childhood education.
Even as I say it, I know you may be thinking, “What an outrageous statement: the man must be full of grandeur and egotism!” My response is that none of that is accurate; however, as my aunt Dot used to say, “The proof of the pudding is in the eating.” In other words, continue viewing this site: follow the guide, if at any point you find the reasoning is faulty, or the goals are inaccurate, insecure or insincere, or it is obvious that a particular idea simply will not work – stop! Forget about the website and keep it to yourself.
I’m just kidding: but, if you really believe this site is not worthy of your attention, tell me why, and I’ll give you a gift plus reimburse you for your effort.
On the other hand, if you find that this site really does do what I say: “change lives: yours and your child(ren),” then the best thing you can do is share the contents with as many other parents as you possibly can. Keep in mind, it is not the site, it is not the producer – it is you who will cause change in your life and the lives of others. This site is simply the catalyst, and most certainly should be shared with other parents; in fact, it should be shared with everyone, parent or not.
If you are female, please don’t be alarmed about my reference to the male gender, it’s just that phrases such as “him or her” or ”she or him” seems to interfere with smooth interaction when thinking about your little “Bundle Of Joy.”
Having clarified that gender fact, allow me to share the secret of why the change in you will occur; actually, it’s not a secret at all; it’s a formula, and it has two components: simplicity and ownership. It is uncomplicated: it tackles the two parts that make us who we are: the body and the mind (soul). The other part is that it establishes an “all-encompassing technique of ownership,” and is made easy by personalizing the interrelationship between you and your child.
The underlying reason this site will cause change in you and the people around you is that it was written with one agenda in mind: to progressively improve the lives of individuals and provide a method of perpetuating that progress. Plus, the foundation has nothing at all to do with guiding individuals toward identifying themselves as liberal or conservative, Democrat or Republican, politician or businessman, scientist or laborer. After all is said and done, those identifying marks don’t matter. What really matters is for you to identify who you are and decide to be the best individual possible, or as Matthew Kelly says in his heartfelt book, “Perfectly Yourself,” – just be yourself.
This site was not designed to change your child(ren), rather to mold him to be the best individual possible and to enjoy every minute of the journey toward independence. The best thing to be said about this site is that the method of integration is simple and easy to personalize; in fact, that is one of the permanent keys: personalizing the technique.
Having said that, it is important to keep in mind that this website is not about me, it is not about you, or the government or politics. It is a site that will aid you in building and molding an adult who will be strong, forthright, honest and a credit to himself and humanity. It is a site that will aid you, the parent, in molding your Little One and bridging the gap between infancy and adulthood.
Before I continue, let me extricate myself from any misunderstanding that might arise about the title I chose. What I mean by that is “success” and “prevention” in the same sentence may cause you to be ambivalent about selecting this site. Well, there is no need to waver because I understand that I am special; however, I also understand that I am no more special than you. The fact is, our Creator provided each of us with everything we need, to be all that we desire. What that means is, it’s not who or what we are, it’s how we utilize our assets: the secret is to identify specifically what we want, then focus on the details.
Sorry for getting off track: let me answer the question that is probably begging to be addressed: “How does this man qualify to talk about parenting?” Good question. The answer is, I am a parent, and have been for more than four decades. Once a parent, always a parent: actually, that means nothing, it’s just a fact. I said that to say that everyone has two parents, yet not everyone can be a parent. I was born in December 1938, I became a parent for the first of three times in July, 1971. The first is a girl, the other two are boys: born 1980 and 1984. The dates and gender are important because a parent never knows the quality of his effort until he observes his child after entry into adulthood.
In many instances, the individuals who can best answer that question are grandparents or the equivalent. My intent is to insure that you don’t leave this work like the playboy who became excited when he thought he overheard someone explain the availability of a lovely middle-age vixen. He sought her out on the dance floor and after exploratory comments, he realized he had selected the wrong potential companion. She said, “My weakness is that I suffer from acute angina!” He had misunderstood the comment of a friend: what he thought he heard was that she had a cute… never mind.
Back on track! Had someone asked me ten years ago if I thought I had been a good parent, I would have answered “Yes, absolutely.” Wrong! I discovered the truth just a few short years ago. That is why I put this site together. However, it is not about me, it’s about you and your relationship to your little “Bundle of Joy.” It is addressed to you, the parent (caregiver), because you hold the key to molding an individual into a polished, independent adult who can be part of, and help a new culture arrive in the midst of the current chaos.
“Did he say chaos?” I sure did! I may not be… let me rephrase that… I am not the brightest tool in the shed, but I do know that every difficulty or problem that people endure in any society is the result of allowing someone else to mold their Little One into a liberal or conservative, a Democrat or Republican, a scientist or laborer, a lover or hater: I understand that in many cultures, that is not an option. I also understand that the source of strength and weakness in any society is the degree of freedom individuals possess to be what they were created to be. That is also one of the things that makes our nation unique and you, the parent, so important.
However, change does not begin with a website, nor does it begin with any government or governmental authority. It begins with you, the parent. Each of us can sit back, and by default, allow someone else to determine our fate and the fate of our little “Bundle of Joy,” or we can take charge and build a new society. Whichever the case, it starts with you.
You may doubt the next thing I am about to say, but I think Matthew Kelley has it correct in his book titled, “Perfectly Yourself,” when he said (paraphrasing), “Living the dream and striving to become all we are capable of being is the only thing we truly ever need…” The intent of that book, and this website, is to cause your child to be the best person he can possibly be.
Now, where do we go from here? Experts who are known for their knowledge and who have achieved positive results, say people learn more from failure than from success. Well, I say “Hang on, cause if that’s true (I believe it is) you are in for quite a ride.”
You are more special than you may realize. Sometimes we don’t think about the idea that everyone has two parents; however, not everyone will be, want to be, nor can be, a parent. The object of this website is to provide you, the parent, with essential tools needed to bridge the gap between infancy and adulthood — that is not a simple task. However, any structure needs a solid foundation to survive the trauma of changing conditions. In the case of individuals, the foundation is erected during the first five to seven years of his existence. That time frame is the focus of this site. By reading and absorbing the essentials of this effort, both you and your Little One can expect to experience life as it is meant to be: a barrel of fun and excitement.
Fact: every child is different, and every parent is different in relation to each child, even if the child is a twin or any other multiple. Nevertheless, there are five consistent stages and levels that each parent/child will encounter. Although the stages are in stone, the ages will vary somewhat, they are:
Stage Age Level of Parenting
1 0 – 1 Love, discipline, molding, guiding, teaching, learning
2 1 – 5 Reinforcing the mold
3 5 – 7 Countering outside influences
4 7 – 13 Guiding/directing toward life-long occupation
5 13–21 Reinforcing and supporting the child’s focus and direction.
I was a masterful parent during stage one and two with daughter, Gervaise, and first son, Logan. But I was a bust with all three of them during all the other stages. There were legitimate reasons, primarily resulting from stupidity. If I were to highlight any or all the reasons, that would be a continuation of the stupid label. With that in mind, I think you will agree, there is no need to linger on that fact. One thing that might cause you to want to consume this website is that experts insist that individuals learn more from failure than from success. I believe that’s true, which means you are in for quite a ride. Did I say that before? No matter, it is no less true…
Nevertheless, you just hang on: you and your Little One will gain immense value, and because of that, so will your friends and associates to whom you relate.
One last thing before we get started: the first component of this excercise is that the behavior of your Little One stems from the mental outlook that you create and mold. The second component is what you do. Everything, without exception, begins in the mind; however, nothing happens until we transfer our thoughts into action. That is where the parent(s) helps develop the physical skills that make it easy and fun for your little “Bundle of Joy” to, slowly but surely, show how he is in control of his worldly existence.
Before we proceed, I’d like to share one final thought: a single parent needs a companion to share the goodness of child development; I don’t mean a “single parent” as in a parent without a mate necessarily. What I mean is, to achieve the greatest impact of child develpment, a parent should share the method, technique, model, guidance, or however one looks at development of his child with at least one other individual. The other individual can be a spouse (that’s the ultimate), an older sibling, a grandparent, any other relative, or even a caring neighbor. The point is, your child’s view of his world will materialize substantially, and with greater substance, when your developmental model is supported by at least one other caring individual. In other words, share this site and all its trappings with at least one other caring individual.
I hope you agree that we have set the foundation for the beginning of our journey, thank you for having an open mind about being a “good parent.” Please continue by accessing “About Us.”